For a number of times in my life I have clawed and scratched at quite a lot of things  every step of the way as many of us do. Through all the obstacles and challenges I have faced and still do face, I realize that there is no such thing as an ‘overnight success’.

While in search of answers here and there, looking for the right tools to live that successful life, I discovered that invariably there are different definitions to the word  ‘success’.

The one definition I  have chosen to stick with is this;

Success is the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.

When you have a cause, a dream or a passion that’s worth every ounce of your blood and sweat, because that’s what you’ve decided to do….deliberately, then you are a success.

The pursuit of that worthy cause or dream however,does not come over night, it takes time and it involves process,which is a series of steps taken in order  to achieve a particular end. In taking steps to achieve these end, you come face to face with distractions, setbacks , brick-walls, to knock you off the course and discourage you.

I have been facing such brick walls since I started work on my new album project,and believe you me, I’m like Lord, what’s with all this challenges, it’s one thing or another. As you try to sort out one, another raises its ugly head!

These brick walls have the potentials of turning your pursuit of success into a nightmare, but you just have to develop a thick skin and have a strong resolute, that no matter what may come your way, you will see yourself breasting the tape at the finish line.

Again this brick walls come in different variant, different shapes and sizes. One of such is when someone is trying to hold you to’ ransom’ and they believe that they are doing you a favor, without them you can’t go further. I was confronted with that challenge recently.

As I ponder on, the circumstances surrounding the event, at first there was  an outburst in anger,stating clearly that I was not going to allow anybody hold me to ransom again, I am taking charge of my life,and I will dictate the pace with which I will go with all my enterprise,especially when you have been paid to do your job,and you are slacking in it. I will not hesitate to bid you farewell.

It is not always easy to let go,when you have built relationships with people over a period of time, at the same time you will be doing them a disservice if you fail to let them know that you can’t condone their behavioral pattern any longer. ‘Behavioral pattern’ -The person is always doing same thing over and over again. We like to play it safe but in the end we may never be able to break through those walls.

Safety is good -until it holds us back in our pursuit of life goals, worthy cause et all. This energetic blockage is a bit tricky when it involves people relationship. It hard to separate out what is a true sense of work ethics and friendship, you find yourself in that space of playing it ‘safe’ because you don’t want to be perceived as someone who is hard, but when it interferes with your life’s call- You had better get out of the ‘safe mode’ and be labeled whatever it is.

To move past this ‘safe mode’ I found that the fear of losing out crept in at first, but gradually as I became more thankful about the situation, I realize that If I don’t stand on my decision to relieve the person involve of his/her ‘position’ and find another alternative,I am not helping the relationship, and the person may think that the whole world revolves around them. More so, it affords me the opportunity to stand up for the things I believe, not allowing someone else to make my decisions for me.

There will always be brick walls in the journey of life and the road to success, its either you break through it, go over the wall to the others side, take the sides, or go underneath to the other side. Whichever way you choose- ‘SOMETHING’S GOT TO GIVE’ because the brick walls are there for a reason- To make you stronger,tougher as you hone your success story.

I am grateful for every brick wall I have had to face,and the ones still facing me.

This post is also in response to Colline’s gratitude challenge

 

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