Women-Building bridges through Mentoring.

Warning: This is a long read! 😀

celebrating womanhood

It’s that time of the week when I focus my adrenalin of the womenfolk. The objectives of CWW is to celebrate the woman in her totality, and by so doing encourage and inspire us to be, to do and to live fully in whatever stage of womanhood we may be.

As women it is natural to gravitate towards those who are like us, embracing change on the verge of a new chapter and coming into your own, It is also Important to recognise our self-worth and true  identity from the master craftsman- God.

Then and only then will we be able to pour our ideals to the next generation. That brings me to my topic for this week: Women –Building Bridges through mentoring.

The younger generation of women needs “safe people”  women who are safe and secure in their unique Identity who are not defined by the frivolities, and plasticity or falsehood entrenched upon her by the society.

The younger generation needs a safe place where they can be their true selves and share without fear of judgement. For that to happen we must first understand that our Identity as women is centred as an Image-bearer of God.

It is expedient in this day and age for the Older women to get out of their comfort zone into mentoring through intentional relationships, In other words, you are stepping out of your lane to consciously make impact in another woman’s life and together, touching lives and causing everything around us to blossom into the warmth and love been transferred consciously.

What is Mentoring? 


Until recently, I never thought of mentoring in Psalm 145:4 puts it

One generation will commend your works to another.

simply put, one generation will teach and train the next generation. One scripture that emphasises on Women mentoring women is Titus 2:3-5. when we put these two passages together it is safe to say that

Mentoring is simply teaching what you’ve been taught so you can train the younger generation.

I stumbled upon one of my friend’s post on facebook today, and she was talking about how her domestic help found it intriguing watching the “madam” wrap mixed bean flour in with our local leaves-( Moin-Moin). The Domestic help or house-girl as we called them here was so shocked to see that her boss could do that, which seemed old fashion.

This friend of mine used the opportunity to inform the ‘help’ of the many things she can still do today, that many young ladies of today cannot do. In a bid to meet up with the joneses of life, the older generation has misled the next generation. I remember growing up as a very young girl in the city of Lagos, my mum and every other mum around never hesitated at every given opportunity, to cheap in one valuable advice or the other.

Like the saying goes, it takes a village to train a child, way back then, young girls were answerable not only to their biological parents but also aunties around the neighbourhood. We were taught how to cook, bake, sew, and every other thing including wash car!

Putting it in the words of my friend, “we were equipped for life, not just for life alone but wherever life takes us and whatever situation we find ourselves.

Can we say that for the younger generation we are raising now? Are we equipping them for life in every sense of it, or we are just taking the back seat as we watched our girls today entered into that “Selfie” mode of life. The trinity of self-ME, MYSELF AND I.  

In the bid to meet up with the fast-paced world and its changing dynamism, our younger generation can no longer uphold values that made our mothers real mums!. How do we build the value bridge again? How can we as today’s women restore that dignity among the younger women, so that they can also pass it down to theirs and the cycle keeps going?

First and foremost we must understand that mentoring occurs in all walks of life, and all stages of femininity since we are talking about womanhood. It is very easy to become enveloped by the world’s call on our life as women, it is easy to get encumbered with all the cares that we forget and we forget that it is expedient for us to pass down the grace and virtues of womanhood to the next generation and not allow the media to tell who they are and what they are.

Like I mention earlier, mentoring occurs at all levels of life- The good times, the bad, the ugly and the in-betweens. It’s sharing with the other person our”been-there-done-that-experiences, and because we made it through those experiences, she too can experience victory, and the assurance that we’ll be there to offer support and encouragement instead of judging will enable the younger ones to go on.

Today, We find a lot of younger people and those who are not so young, who are looking for women to model and pattern themselves along with. Naomi was a perfect example of a mentor to Ruth aside the fact that Naomi was her Mother-in -law. They both had a peculiar relationship and by virtue of that relationship, Naomi became a key player in Ruth’s destiny helping her to build the bridge of her life.

Once in a while, I have the opportunity to mentor quite a handful of young ladies, who come right out to ask me to be their mentor, I remember a young lady walked up to me some months back, in church and she said she needed to talk with me.

I gave her audience and for about 40 minutes she shared some of her issues-I could relate with the things she shared because I had those experiences too, after the encouragement and all that she has been able to move on with a new vigour for life.

Last week I had a tete-a-tete, with my mentor and coach, catching up from the last meeting and what has been happening, it gave me a sense of accountability. That someone is actually out there like a support system just like the bible says. Older women train and teach younger women.


My challenge today to the older women, it is time to pay it forward by mentoring the younger women, ladies and girls all around that need help in nurturing and encouraging them to grow in grace and virtue in any given area of their lives.

To the younger women as well, the future of tomorrow, I charge you to be intentional in your quest to find mentors, find women who are committed to their path to success,who are engaged in their community in one way or another,who have passion to see change in their immediate community and the world at large.

where ever you are in your life or career, you are not alone, there are people who can help you in so many ways. Reach out to people you admire in the church, in the office, school wherever.

Manage your relationship respectfully, and value one another. By so doing we will all be building that bridge to a sustainable future where the womenfolk are not just considered as homemakers only whose place is in the kitchen, but we will be seen as builders and restorers of homes and the nation at large.

Thank you for taking the time to read through! I appreciate your feedback. 🙂


OBA 2016@Thekingsoracle. All rights reserved.




15 Comments Add yours

  1. mandibelle16 says:

    Excellent piece. Inspiring!


    1. kingsoracle says:

      Thanks Mandi !

      Liked by 1 person

  2. simpledimple says:

    You hit the nail on the head with this post. Mentoring is a good way to share knowledge and empower the youths. Personally, I mentor girls and provide them with useful information regarding career paths. On the other had, I am afraid that western influence has eroded into our cultural values so badly that I weep for this generation. Sadly, youths these days are not ready to conform to our cultural norms and most parents are guilty. They no longer teach their girls the values and virtues they inherited from their mothers. As my niece would say, Aunty it’s old skool to do this and that… even learning how to cook!!!


    1. kingsoracle says:

      That’s is so true my dear, and that why we have to let them know and understand that the virtues they call ‘old skool’ are the values that made our mothers strong in all areas of life.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. simpledimple says:

        So true! We will keep trying our best and hope they hear the words of wisdom before it becomes too late. Have a good weekend. 🙂


      2. kingsoracle says:

        You too my dearest one 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

      3. simpledimple says:

        Thanks! 🙂


  3. You can only raise a generation of strong women, by teaching them that which you have learnt. I don’t joke with the idea of mentoring. It is the only way to establish a rightful legacy. Well written.


    1. kingsoracle says:

      You said it precisely! Thanks Sis. And thanks for that wonderful comment on the link, you just melted my heart sis, Nne Daalu #iloveyoutobits 😀

      Liked by 1 person

      1. My big pleasure 🙂


  4. ilianavillalobos says:

    Wow that’s awesome! I totally agree. I’m glad there are women like you who want to pay it forward and help generations to come. Thank you. 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    1. kingsoracle says:

      Thanks for stopping by dear friend. 😀

      Liked by 1 person

  5. memaojukwu says:

    Wow. This is exactly what I believe and I’m all about! Being a safe place for other women and helping to build others up. I myself have women I look up to and who speak into my life, and I am so passionate about building younger women and girls up into womanhood God’s way(in grace in strength and authority and in real impact). I loved every bit of this! And I sincerely hope that I live it out till my time on earth is up.😊

    Liked by 1 person

    1. kingsoracle says:

      Thanks Mema, I am glad we share the same ideals with respect to this topic. Thanks for stopping by once again.

      Liked by 1 person

      1. memaojukwu says:

        Thank you! 🙂


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