Don’t lose that girl.

It’s Wednesday again! Another exciting time to share everything and anything about womanhood. The values and virtues of being a woman, the highs and the lows of womanhood. The intricacies and complexities of that Special breed –The Woman!

As I start to scribble down my thoughts for today, on Celebrating Womanhood Wednesday. I asked myself this question,” what is womanhood?

Womanhood is the stage or the condition of being a woman- It is the pinnacle of our physical development, that stage at which we shed the last vestige of our childhood and become real ladies- Grown-up Ladies.

Womanhood is that point when we begin to see the world from a new and different perspective-gaining new strength that only women possess. It is that when we take the world and we do- we are all things ….to all men!

Mothers,sisters,writers,singers,lovers,friends,daughters, wives,partners. The list goes on and on.

In the bid of becoming or stepping into “womanhood,” we race from Childhood to adulthood fighting so hard to be seen as grown women,mature and serious. I see young girls today ,who are gradually entering into adolescence trying to fight hard not to be called ‘little girls’. We don’t want to be seen as girls anymore.

Why do we just want to forget about that state of “girliness”. To be Girl is to be weak, naive and seen as immature. The girl is not ready,she is too playful, too innocent.

Most of the time we’ve tried hard to get rid of the girl in us as if it were a kind of blemish. Is it true that we must leave our girlhood behind and never look back!. In our eagerness to embrace womanhood we have forgotten what it is to be a girl.

Girls on the playground so ready to fight and win


Girls in the classroom with our intelligence and creative abilities,believing we can be anything,do anything, The girls that do not have time to think about the flaws in their figure-The only weight  we are concerned about is the brain on the head,and the books in the bag.

Girls who want to dance and play,learn and laugh, Girls who believe in themselves, who have confidence, no fears, and no worries.

What separates the girl and the woman? where is the place between the girl and the woman? The place where two identities clash and  leave us exhausted and confused with us and everybody else.

We start running from girlhood to the freedom that womanhood provides(I wonder if there is anything like freedom, though)  we are trying to catch the trains as our mothers,aunties who seemed to know the way. we’ve listened to those who have gone ahead of us,who wanted us to have life easier than they did.

In keeping up with their patterns,and models we are so busy becoming women, because it takes so much to be one, that we left the “girl” behind.

The girl is left behind so we can survive,because we were told the girl cannot face what the woman must face. we have come to learn that being a woman mens living by the rules od others,except ours! The rules that made us self-conscious of everything- what we look like, how we act, believing that the only way through is being ,”woman of steel”- strong ,tough,sleek and smooth!   I wish that was true.

We have become so preoccupied by the demands and contradictions of the rules,we do not have time for girlish folly.


How do we come back into the girliness of our womanhood? how could we ever  feel as a girl does feel?  Free witha fearless heart!

To experience true womnhood we must embrace the girl in us-The girl who just want to have fun-Like that Cyndi Lauper’song of the 90’s. The girl who is not afraid of making mistakes,taking on new feat,-That confident,bold,fearless girl is in every woman.

We must embrace her-inner girl and importantly we must understand thatour immediate environment ,our circle of influence become a better place when we activates the dynamics of our girliness in our womanhood.

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Woman, don’t leave the girl in you behind

Don’t lose that girl!

Girls, just want to have fun

In the middle of mid-life crisis

Girls,just want to have fun

when the working day is done

Girls just want to have fun

To walk in the sun

just have fun

When some boy come take the beautiful girl

Hide her from the rest of the world

Oh girls just want to have fun.


Inspired by Cyndi Lauper’s Girls just want to have fun.

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6 Comments Add yours

  1. Wivesrepublic says:

    Reblogged this on WIVESREPUBLIC and commented:
    The girl I was became the woman I became. The girl learnt new values, standards, morals and confidence and became a whole woman in her own right. The girls of today, becomes the woman tomorrow, what have you contributed to her?

    Liked by 3 people

    1. kingsoracle says:

      Thanks for your contribution and many thanks for the Reblog.

      Liked by 1 person

  2. Very well articulated sis. I enjoyed reading this and I’m holding on tight to my young girly parts and have fun 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    1. kingsoracle says:

      That’s the idea sis!

      Liked by 1 person

  3. As a woman, I look for, and then pull out, the girl I remember vividly. She’s real and honest and vulnerable and questioning and full of love. I do much better, as a woman, when I let ‘the girl’ out.


    1. kingsoracle says:

      Yes that’s so true.

      Liked by 1 person

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