Every woman I know has had to deal with the plague of discontentment at one point or the other, deep within us is that cry for more! Which makes us dissatisfied with the present situation we find ourselves.
As women, we are known to complain about everything, at every stage of life, no matter the status we are in. we are dissatisfied when we see other women doing the things we desire, and looking altogether without any problem. (sounds too good to be true though!
But the truth of the matter is this, no matter how much we have, there will always be someone who has more. Discontentment is a general disease plaguing not only the money-challenged people, or the uneducated, even the very rich and affluent ones suffer discontentment.
Why are discontented? The picture that comes to my mind as I write is the occurrence in the garden of Eden, between the Woman and the serpent. Genesis 3:1-5, notice the trend of the discussion in verse 4 and 5
You will not surely die’, the snake said to the woman. 5. ‘For God knows that when you eat from it your eyes will be opened, and you will be like God,knowing good and evil.
That right there was the root of the plague that has caused much havoc to humanity, Comparison! whatever our areas of discontent today, it all stemmed from a comparison.
A plus size woman, is trying to compare herself with a size 8 woman, and she believes that the reason why the whole world is collapsing on her is because she’s fat, on the other hand, the figure 8 lady is looking at the ‘fatty’ bum and thinking,” if I can just have some extra fat from her, maybe I would be fine’. The comparison has begun, and it goes on and on and on.
Women, why are we discontented? because most of the time what or who we compare ourselves with is sometimes unreal. we pick one aspect of someone’s life that seems to be working well, and try to compare it with that area of ours that is messy and out of shape, forgetting that there is no such thing as perfect…….for as long as we are still on this side of the earth realm!
Let’s go back to Genesis again, who told the woman that she wasn’t like God already, how come she needed the serpent to twist things for her, because that’s exactly what the serpent did, he twisted the truth, and still does till day.
She was already made in the image and likeness of God already, she was already a god,but that’s a topic for another post, what I am trying to bring out of this is that, every time we try to compare ourselves with ourselves as Apostle Paul puts it, we miss out a truth that the grass is not always greener on the other side of the lawn.
You are dissatisfied because you think Linda has a perfect body and in good shape that why everything is working for her , what you don’t know is that behind closed doors, Linda is wishing she were you, because every time she sees you playing with the children who have caused that extra fat in your body (as you claim), she has an ache in heart that just won’t go away.
As women, how can we deal with this plague?
It is a matter of having the right attitude, we can conquer the plague called ‘discontentment’ if we choose to. Because when we truly conquer it, then we begin to fully live life to the fullest. It is not about getting the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, it begins with appreciating the rainbow first.
As a Singerminister, I was plagued with discontentment, I would watch how my female counterparts were being invited, and being all over the place, and things are happening for them, at the back of my mind I would be wishing I was in their shoes, this went on for a while,Until I came to myself,a fter a hard time talking God and pouring my heart out,because I didn’t like the negative energy that was coming out of me, it took a while to get out it,but gradually I began to embrace myself and the journey of my calling/career.
There are days I still want to do the comparison check ,but it’s no longer a stronghold that hindered me from being me and enjoying every moment, more so now that I know better, that I have been uniquely created to solve a specific assignment, and my journey cannot be like another woman’s journey even if it looked like we are doing the same thing, there is still something unique that separates us- It is that Unique Rarity in us that we should celebrate, we must not try to compare or compete with one another.
Instead, we ought as women at whatever strata of life we may find ourselves, we must always celebrate who we are individually and collectively, knowing that our framework and design is peculiar to each of us.
Afterall, we are all of us complete!
I celebrate you, woman!
However, you are,wherever you are,whatever you are!
We are all of us complete, we do not compare us with us, we complement us, we build us for maximum impact and influence so that our Heavenly Father will be proud of us as his partners in the business of creation.
To all the Women creating values in the homefront, in the corporate world, in the media,
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