Dear God, I Need a Friend.

A big shout out to all the amazing women all over the world, being themselves and doing it amazingly. It’s another Wednesday, another exciting episode of #Celebratingwomanhood.

A few days ago, I told my husband that I was inviting my friend over for lunch, the next day after Sunday Service, and of course his response was, “You are now telling me on Saturday evening?

Well, telling him late wasn’t intentional , I guess I just couldn’t get round to telling him on time, because this friend in question is not someone in our collective circle of friends.

To my feminine mindset, I wanted my Husband to know the new kids on the block that I have been spending some time with in the last few months, and it was proper for me to bring one or two over to the house- A deliberate attempt on my part!

I remember, the first time I took this friend of mine out with her other friend, it was the first time for me , to take a girlfriend out ,where we just chill out and bonded as we gor to unwind,I have been invited out severally especially with the children, but that day was the first time I will take one or two girlfriends out .


You may find the title of this blog resonates in your heart, for most of us it does. Apart from letting God be your best friend through His Son, Jesus.I believe  strongly that He is very much interested in the kind of company we keep, because at the end of the day , the bottom line of every form of relationship is that God is honored and glorified through our friendship and that we also impact and Influence our circle of influence through such.

In the pages of Scriptures we find  various examples of friendships, but I want to lay emphasis as a matter of discuss on Ruth- A model of friendship.

Both men and women need friends, and friendship need are quite different , because my focus on this blog is  women, I want to emphasis on the friends we women need. One of the most beautiful stories of friendship recorded in the bible is the story from the book of Ruth,named after the character herself.

The book of Ruth flourishes us with life-lessons that we can apply in our everyday life. One way God manifest Himself to us is through the friends He sends our way. We are familiar with the Ruth’s story- How two women were brought together during a tragic and distressing season of their lives.

Check out the age difference first, Ruth was a young beautiful damsel, who happened to be the daughter-in-law of Naomi-who on the other hand was a bitter, disillusioned older jewish widow. They were both different in every word of different!

After the demise of her Husband, Ruth could have chosen to get out of the misery of the House of Naomi, by getting hooked to another handsome young dude, she didn’t need Naomi for anything. Instead she chose to stay with Naomi.

There were certain outstanding qualities in Ruth that helped to cement her relationship with Naomi, such that thousands of generations till date, we are all beneficiaries of that friendship they both cultivated.

Ruth must have been patient among all other virtues,considering the fact that bitter people like Naomi, can often times be a pain in the neck,and both might have cause to have argument ,but Ruth’s love for Naomi ,must have been a kind of healing that Naomi was softened by it along the line. she was also diligent ,ready to work and not lazy,she was also committed,teachable and obedient. {You can read the book of Ruth}.

At some point in our lives as women,God brings along our way some friendships which goes beyond satisfying for a brief moment, He appoints the seasons of our friendship to bring people into our lives for life long connections that will change the course of our destinies.

This kind of relationships are supernatural in their purpose,and when we decide to get past our pettiness because sometimes we can get petty as women you know,  earlier today, I saw something fascinating on one of Nigeria’s leading ladies in Nollywood, and it was a beautiful write up about her friends:

Build your friends, don’t compete, there is enough success to go around-Omoni Oboli.

True friendship are cultivated in the threshold of life, when women walk through so much together to build a foundation of trust, but it requires substantial Investmentof time and energy, I recall cooking in the kitchen on sunday before my girlfriend came in, and at some point I told myself,” OBA,You must really like this lady, to be doing all this “. Then  again I reminded myself of the picture I pasted on my vision board for Genuine friendship.

That don’t come on a platter of gold, it is hard work, friendship don’t come like a piece of cake and announcement, Pro 18:24

  A man{or woman} who has friends must himself{herself} be friendly.

because we must all fulfill the Father’s mandate to be fruitful and multiply and replenish the earth with the vast resources within and without.

One of the lessons I am learning in this season as a woman on a mission is sowing seeds of friendship,developing friendship with women especially of all ages, some of the younger generationers find solace in sharing their challenges adn dreams with me,some go the extra mile of calling me “mom”, its is an enriching feeling to know that one can deposit treasures in the heart of this young ones.

In my quest for genuine friendship,and collaboration I have found out that it is possible to develop solid relationship for mutual benefit, creating a win-win situation for both sides, as my friend and I sat down after lunch to discuss our dreams and desires , we came up with one goal in mind, to push one another to that height in the fulfilment of God’s eternal purpose for our  individual and collective lives.

In conclusion, here are some friendship qualities that can enrish our lives:

  • Commit the friendship to God, we can’t shy away from the God-factor in any godly relationship.
  • Openness-Because of the experience of the past as far as my woman to woman relationship was, it took a long time for me to really delve into any other covenant relationship, but as I opened up, the healing process help me to break down walls, and barricades that I had put up.
  • Look out for the need of the other person and be genuinely interested in their well being.
  • You decide from the beginning to give the friendship your best.

Because we are all working progress and work-in-progress, we will agree to disagree sometimes, and disagree to agree, but when understand the rules, and don’t go beyond our boundaries, we will continue to thrive just like the Ruth-Naomi kind of friendship.

As women let’s not forget that we hold the key to one another’s wholeness. #womenofdestiny #womensupportingwomen #womenmentoringwomen

#collaborators #midwives#helpersofdrestiny #soulsista #friendsforlife.

Until next week

Your Sista celebrating you always,

OBA2016@Thekingsoracle.All rights resrved.

11 Comments Add yours

  1. Excellent thought process!! fabulous thoughtful post… I am in!!

    Kind Regards and feeling grateful – K


  2. I’m soooo glad that I found this blog! I’ve been looking for more blogs that have people that seem dedicated to Christ, and to living a life worthy of God. And yes! Friendship is definitely something to be cherished! I liked the part where you talked about comparison. It reminds me of something someone told me growing up- Comparison kills contentment! Thanks for the great post. Can’t wait to see more in the future!


    1. kingsoracle says:

      Thank you so much Hannah, for taking time to check out my blog and to take the time to read through, I truly appreciate your time and kind gesture. So glad to find another Sista sold out to Christ, together we light up the world with the love of God shed abroad in our heart. So glad to connect with you.

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      1. I agree 100%. Thanks for doing what you do! 🙂


  3. I completely concur 🙂

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  4. Eugenia says:

    You have a lovely blog and it is good to meet you. I came over from Jackie’s blog.


    1. kingsoracle says:

      Thanks Eugenia. Going to check yours out now.

      Liked by 1 person

  5. Roos Ruse says:

    How marvelous. I’ve been wanting to read all the postsin Jacqueline’s Link # 113 but only got to it today. Your post about Ruth and Naomi is exactly what I needed to hear in the midst of turmoil in my life. Living with my oldest friend would seem simple and easy. Often it is not so. We are old and set in our ways. Sometimes I feel I might break from trying to flex :D. But as you well pointed out, bitterness can make us very unpleasant. I thank God for you and your post today, for reminding me how precious we all are – to Father God and to each other. Be blessed and keep praying it forward! ❤ ❤ ❤ <4


    1. kingsoracle says:

      Thanks Roos Ruse,for taking time to read eventually, and many thanks for your kind words, it’s a humbling feeling to know that you have been blessed one or the other by the post. God bless you.<3


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